Where I get shot down is that I want to show WW I'm her best option at this point in the hope that she will see this and RC is possible.
The way I see it, there is a slight but important difference between SHOWING her that you are the best option and BEING the best option.
I think that the important things are what happens when nobody is watching. Thats the time for you to practice becoming the man who is the best option.
For example, let's say she is big on timeliness and you are always late to things. Sure, you can be on time to everything where she is involved and thats great. But if you still run 15 minutes late for everything else, then you havent really internalized any actual change - it's just a show for her. And some time down the road, that timeliness will vanish and youll be right back where you started.
To me, lasting change only can come from an internal desire for it. And that internal desire is what will cause you to BE the best option. She will see if thats the case whether you are trying to 'prove' it to her or not.
