Wife Wants to Leave Marriage 6

[25yearsmlc]

you can tell people you are "facing a marital challenge, thanks for asking."

I don't think covering for your w is necessary. But as you know, I am not a fan - and neither is MWD - of telling anymore people than necessary, IF you want to reconcile

(and actually if you want to retain some civility with the child related issues.)

I know I'd regret spewing out to others way more than holding my tongue.

Sidenote - when h brought up the Alaskan obsession - AGAIN - at first I was not clear on details (h was omitting, as usual).

But my point is, while I was struggling with a plan or response, an old friend who knew the past and present, blasted me for not filing that day.

I was so bummed I had told her anything about the past. Even though I ended up filing anyhow, it was much later & when more transpired, and I had all the details. Frankly, I have never felt the same about her since. She sort of threw it in my face and I was very vulnerable at the time.

What if the facts were different or h and I could have worked things out? I really wish I had not told her. She reaches out to me now, but I don't feel the same about her.



You can always tell your w what you think if it comes to it. Be brief and think it out in advance, if you do.