[quote=skyhigh]25 you are entitled to your opinion and I am to mine, so I think the best is to agree to disagree.
I never said that he was ready to take responsibility please read again without jumping to any conclusion. I didn't mean to imply you thought that. I was being sarcastic towards her h, not you. Trying to "see it through his eyes" so to speak.
Did you notice those who are committing acts that are not morally acceptable toward their family usually are withdrawing themselves from others (family, friends...) so they don't have to "talk to them" and sometimes move away so they can start a new life. Yes I noticed.
My h is in Alaska, & I heard my h lie to his new fans about when I was joining him up there. I heard him give a narrative that was so distorted that it was unrecognizable.
Obviously h has justified his choices - or he would not have made them.
Noticing that has not changed anything but yes, I noticed it.
H has a new fan base for his new life. I would not call it "shame" that makes him do this, though maybe.
But perhaps that's me projecting my own values onto him. Because I used to assume he felt shame b/c I sure would if it were ME making a choice to leave the children and m for an adventure.
Especially after decades of what seemed like a strong marriage with a lot of laughs and achievement. It reeks of so much "entitlement" I could literally not relate. So yes I asked why.
My answer thus far is that H and I do not share the same values (at least not anymore)
and we do not have the same moral compass. If we did, we would not be here.
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
