25yearsMLC 10 Later I FILE D part 7

[25yearsmlc]

And btw, if you suspect brother is not being helpful TO YOU, I'd ask him to just say the same to your stbxh - send his proposal to your attorney.

Brother is helping as far as I can tell. He's careful not to second guess or overstep with my L. It is advantageous imo, to have h believe he's saving money by negotiating or by feeling he's saving legal fees. And he probably is.

I'm not sure, but my gut says h's L is blowing steam up H's butt. OR was.

It's one thing for h to only hear what he wants to hear, or only hear what he fears. All true.

But it's not like him to overlook his biggest fear, which is to be screwed in court. Hard to believe his lawyer did not give his blessing to "just not paying what the court ordered...good luck to 25 getting the money you don't really 'get'".

Not sure this^^ matters, but it does not impress me much about other lawyers, which is professionally disappointing.

I trust my brother. H's L is out of town and I suspect he's trying not to use his L as much anyhow.

H is cheap, btw. I mean, notoriously so. Bro answered h's question - which was whether my L & I will come up with 2 numbers this week

1) arrears and 2) buy out for future requirements to which my brother said "thinks so."

I believe h is anxious to earn the big bucks and prepare to be out there with it. And as I said, maybe remarry. But he could bifurcate the divorce is remarrying was his only concern (separate the money issues form the divorce itself). My L offered that (without asking me, btw) and so far no one bit.

Not sure why h mentioned the kids not speaking to him, (which might change if h picked up the phone) but it's probably the 3 channels of the disorder -

charm, rage and self pity.

Even as I write this^^ I feel as if it does not quite fit. Like h is better than that. Damn, I am glad I have a good T.