I do want to save it. She's really a good person. We are here and are both commuted to making it work. It's just much much harder than either of us ever thought. I think to myself if we were more alike it wouldn't be hard at all. But ya know I knew it and so did she's. We married anyway and here we are. We'll have 3 days thatvare great and then pop it goes down hill. She's so so sensitive to everything and takes anything saidnpersonallu. No humor, no fun. Just dry boring lives. I like my time to myself as I can not be on egg shells and she feels that way too. Ha We're trying to learn how to give each other time but mungoodness it just never seems to end. I had a marriage for over 20 years and it wasn't healthy and bad in other ways. It it was fun and we didn't get offended every time a pen dropped.
I just need some encouragement that she's willing to bend more. I feel like I've bent So much I'm not even the person I was. I'm just a guy she's trying to create.
We saw a counselor before marriage and several time after. I don't want to sound bad but I honestly think she doesn't see it. Even when a counselor tells her we both have to bend and she needs to stop Mothering me and making me someone else. She acknowledges she does that but she does for the better good so omg. I just wanna both bend and meet in middle and be happy. We so opposite. I like to cuddle she's hands off. I like being home, she likes being busy and not being home. On and on and on. Harder than we thought. Wish it were easier
