I-since you filed for divorce some explanations will have to be given to people when they will ask him or you "why?" IMO most people will Not ask him. At least not at work. They will say "oh he's single now" and as long as he's not distracted at work, I'd be shocked if anyone asks.
His family will stick with their blood.
and "Is he ready to face others and assume his past actions that destroyed his marriage and de facto the life of his kids? Sky, Why would he begin taking responsibility for it now? I'm asking.
If he's anything like every single divorced MD, Lawyer or male military officer I know who, he will control the message and massage the explanation with ease.
Either with character assassination of the spouse, or with the "we mutually grew apart" blah blah blah.
Given that Sara works in the same field, I would think the neutral version is better. Are you guys at the same hospital or clinic?
It's one thing to blame your spouse for your unfaithfulness in the comfort of your own home but saying the same to others who knows you both is a totally different thing. there are People who have affairs that feel horrible about it and resolve to change,
versus cheaters who justify their affairs. I really don't think there's much shame.
Unless Sara tells the people who know them both, I don't think her h will tell anyone. Do you think that he cares what people will say or think about him?
I have read a lot about this ^^ I'll just quote something I read -
"To some extent most people care about what others think. But those with strong moral compasses do the right thing no matter what others think.
Whereas with narcissistic personalities, it's not about doing what is right,
it's about appearing to do what is right. Excessive admiration, attention and accolades are vital."
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
