yes I fully appreciate the "marathon" aspect now. I certainly try to give the W space and maybe she now needs to get it out of her system. Was quite an eyeopener the other day when we were watching a new Scandinavian drama and one of the characters was considering having an affair and her BFF advised her against it basically saying that the "falling in love" aspect only lasts 18 months because of the brain chemistry to which my W said something along the lines "really? oh no". Like I didn't know what she was talking about! The only worry about giving her space would be the full PA (if it has not already started) but I try not to dwell on that one for very long.


Me 55, W 50
D 8
M 20
T 27
MIL w/ us
BD 01/02/17
workplace A (12/09/16, EA -> PA)
OM senior manager, long term W, child 14
now: limbo (my choice)

"Don't care what you may do, we got that attitude!" - Bad Brains