Awkward Situation Got Much Worse (part 3)

[PsySara]

I am new to the filing for divorce process...are there resources here for what to do? My wife doesnt realize that filing is just the start. She literally said she would meet with a lawyer and be done by mid week.

It sounds out of place right now, but she already layed out a plan for her to keep tge house and me to leave. I honestly have poured my heart and soul into this house and do not want to lose it if this all follows through. Any advice?

Depends on what state you live in but most places are a 50/50 state. I live in Florida and all assets acquired during the marriage is considered communal property and therefore they have to be split 50/50. I have the advantage of my WH liking to own all his vehicles (2 cars and 4 motorcycles) and has agreed to let me have the house and he keeps his toys. Otherwise we'd have to seel the house or I would have to buy out his part of the 50%.

Your wife is delusional if she thinks this will be a short or painless process. Even filing takes time. I am buried underneath the financial affidavit and so I am making an appointment with my CPA to go over some of the more convoluted parts. This all takes time and money, and this is without a resistant spouse so far. If he decides to dog in his heels and make this complicated then it could run upwards of 50K....each. I did decide to make consults with all the highest rated family lawyers in town so WH couldn't use them. I am lucky in that they all offer free consults.

If you WW is not taking care of the kids as much make sure to document all of this. Keep a journal of how many hours she is spending with the kids each week. Every time she is late for her time then document. Judges could not care less about infidelity or emotional crap, they respond to documented facts.

Your goal should be more self-focued. You cannot make your wife react in any particular way but you can influence the outcome. So make your goals more concrete. For instance, I made myself goals about getting my hair done, started going to the gym, spending less time online and more time with my kids being "present."