Is it too late

[25yearsmlc]

I'm about halfway through DB book. What's the difference between DB and DR?

IMO, the DR is the 2nd edition of Div Busting. It has more techniques in it, and less time spent on why divorce stinks. I read both, but for ME, once the decision to DB was made, I didn't need more convincing.

H started talking about what to do with the house whether I want it or he buys it from me. I told him I wasn't sure and changed the subject.


^^good. "It's a lot to process and I need some time." Then change the topic or get out of the room.

I'm trying to do my own thing. I do not text him unless he texts me. Even though we're both home today we're doing separate things. He made me breakfast today which was nice.

This is going to sound bad but does anyone see other people while working on DB? Like just as friends go out with other guys? Part of me thinks if I do this it might make him more interested again knowing that there's other people out there?

Well it's not a part of trying to save your m. Or setting an example of fidelity.

But there's nothing wrong with some mystery and looking your best.

I'm not sure this is right to say to you at this point, but I read an article written by a man who left his wife for OW and then married the OW. The title was "Don't Do What I did".

When he first left his ex-wife , he saw that she did not date and he felt validated that she must not be very desirable, and his choice to leave made sense. (It only occurred to him later that she was doing what she thought was best for their small children).

He confessed that it was only later, when she began dating and he saw that she was well treated (better treated, actually) by the new man in her life, that he began to remember why he married her in the first place.

Then he saw her fall in love with the new man, and marry him. He found himself very jealous and sad.

And now, years later, he deeply regrets the damage he inflicted on the kids and the loss of a great woman and the closeness he could have had with their kids too. Even though he said "it's okay and conflict free, the kids will never have with me what we might have had..."

Indeed...


I heard him say he's trying to meet other women just to talk and make friends.

Ouch. That statement is a red flag, I'm afraid.