Not sure what you are getting at 25yearsmic...the EA is with my BIL. My sister did not know. I resisted advice on here for 1.5 years to tell my sister. I told her because my BIL found out I knew as well. Everyone involved but my sister knew.
That's fair.
But what is your goal, now? It really has to be clear (at least for the short term).
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016