I agree that GW did not likely get brownie points for not telling or turning OM in. His w likely was, at most relieved, and probably upset he even brought it up in the first (and 2nd, and 3rd, etc) time.
But I strongly believe turning OM in would have gone very very poorly for GW.
AND done nothing to assist in the recon. Especially in GWs situation.
But leaving aside that I think it would make things worse, in a lot of ways I just don't get the focus on OPs.
I do not care much about what happens to the OPs. I don't really get the obsessing about them. Obsess about Spouses, yeah, I get that. ( I mean, It's not healthy but I get it. )
But obsess about OPs? OP's are too far beneath the spouses to spend vital energy on.
I have work of my own to do and joys to have, people I care about to see, laughs to share, lots of GAL to do. Never mind the recon for a minute, I mean ME and MY LIFE!
All ^^ that takes physical and psychic and emotional and spiritual energy.
I'm not interested in spending time or energy on the OPs. I swear I just know any OW cannot compete with our marital history, me being the mother of the kids, my skills and intelligence (plus I'm hilarious) and I loved h more deeply and for longer than any OW will or can. No one else can spend 35 years or give h our 3 kids or sacrifice what I did for h.
No comparison. OW's will dwarf in comparison and I guess as long as I know that, the rest is not very important to me.
Maybe that's just what works for me. Maybe I'm only consoling myself.
It just feels like I'd backslide or stay stuck in a downward spiral of pain, if I were to spend my limited emotional resources at the moment, on anything but me and my kids.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
