My compliments are basic. An you help with a few examples.
I have been in almost 16 and half years. Yes I plan on retiring. I'm military intelligence. So I can't really talk about my work with my wofe which complicates things more.
I'm familiar with that as my dad was in the intelligence field and family members are now. Growing up with that was hard when he'd get stressed at work and we had 9 kids in our family and dad had poor coping skills back then...too bad for him and for my mom and for us.
Maybe you can discuss who is a jerk, who is funny, hardworking at work, or good at the office functions, or introduce other families so you all can support each other and know what you can, about each other's work...
My wife wants to get her master's She is a huge procrastinator.
STOP^^^.
Re- frame "She has a lot of interests."
I gavr her 24 months of my post 9-11 GI bill 2 years ago. Curious. Did you pay for it or did the VA? I'm just curious. My h talks a lot about the VA benefits he "gave" our d20...(While cutting her off, as well). In his case, it cost him nothing...
Joe Joe, for a moment, put aside your w's BD. Is this really a good family time for you to go back to school, anyhow? You did say you want to put your marriage and family first, so give that some thought.
Your kids are not this age forever.
She still hasnt started college. She wants to work. She wants to start college, she just can never stay committed. REFRAME...OMG ....ever wonder why she might doubt herself or her skills? Just asking...
I was helping trying to get some of the steps done. But it's her journey now. If she ask me for help I have no problem doing that.
I was working on my Master's in public administration, but I took a knee on that once BD hit. Couldnt concentrate. makes sense. I'm in a divorcecare support group and most people there have commented that they cannot believe they are keeping their jobs. Some say they are glad to throw themselves into their jobs.
You do what you need to do to conserve your inner resources and spend them wisely.
My wife is a huge caring person. She loves helping people out and I truly love that about her. She is awesome with our boys. And she can walk into any room and make herself home. She's very creative, I mean really creative.
-- So
she's really a compassionate person. She has a lot of meaningful friendships & close family ties. With good reason.
Great people skills, empathetic, and connects with people well. When she chooses a field to pursue or job she likes, she'll be at ease
(telling her she will "excel" might seem like setting her up for failure which is in the back of her mind. I get where she's coming from I think).
Oh and What a great example she is for the kids! Speaking of whom, thank God she's such a good mom b/c the kids will grow up knowing they are loved, which is the greatest gift parents can give. They'll know they have worth, and value, and because of that they will see the value and worth of the person they choose to marry, and will be able to love deeply too.
(Your choosing to fight for the marriage reflects this^^ too.)
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
