Hi Mark
Been reflecting on your musings on what conditions may have led to the affair. I too can concur with all the niceguyishness stuff (as a fellow Brit I also wonder if the British "reserve" fits in here as well in the sense of being not very demonstrative?). Leahsue's contribution also hit me like a sledgehammer. Simply because 20 years of marriage or not (in my case) if my W feels she has met "the one" what chance do I have?

All the best


Me 55, W 50
D 8
M 20
T 27
MIL w/ us
BD 01/02/17
workplace A (12/09/16, EA -> PA)
OM senior manager, long term W, child 14
now: limbo (my choice)

"Don't care what you may do, we got that attitude!" - Bad Brains