Journey to Acceptance

[Coly23]

Hey LAJar! Thanks for the visit.

I'm so sorry you are here too. I remember at the start 10 weeks was an unbelievably long time!

NC is so hard but as you say it is better for us in the long run to avoid spinning at every interaction! I think my H mirrors my actions quite a bit which is really annoying so we don't hear much from him either but every so often I get a text from him which makes my heart sink!

Last year on D's birthday H came over and took us out to lunch and then on Christmas Eve he came over for dinner and stayed the night (in the spare room) and then spent Christmas morning with us. I'm not sure I want to do that again. D says although she loved it, it just felt very awkward. I agree.

Oh we'll no use borrowing trouble from tomorrow as they say. I guess I just need to make m own plans and assume he is making his.

Funnily enough, the other day D was looking for something and had to text H, which did absolutely did not want to do, and he told her the item was in the loft so she just thanked him. Next thing H is asking her if we want him to come over to get it out of the loft but by that time we braved it and did it ourselves. I am so proud that we are so self sufficient now but it has taken me a while to realise that we don''t need him.

I will pop over to your thread LAJar.

Happy weekend everyone!!