It’s never 50/50! My point is that except in the very extreme examples you cite both parties are at fault to some degree and to imply to the children that only one person is to blame is in my opinion dishonest and does not serve them


Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015