Before discovering this forum I conducted quite a bit of research. And in the span of any successful MR. There are always a feeling at some point where thatbfluttering feeling is gone. And people have so called fallen out of love and then it comes back automatically. Situation in a MR changes that feeling. Tried to explain that to my W early on. But she wasn't trying to look at those statistics.
Yeah, I did the same research. "You're in an emotional affair." "Love is chemical at first, and then it becomes a choice."
The problem is that you're NOT talking to someone in a place where they can hear that. They don't WANT to hear that, they want their fantasy, and when you're telling them that, you're telling them that their feelings aren't valid, they're incorrect, and they don't know what they're talking about. And, of course, your pursuing bigtime, and they definitely don't want that.
