My wife told me something the other day. She said she doesnt think she can ever have those past intimate feelings for me again, then she caveats with she doesnt know if that comment is coming from a place of hurt. Because she is still truly hurting.
Do I have the power to ellivate that hurt or does only time?
IMO I think we have affects on our S, but we spend so much time looking for responses. It is the best way to gauge if something is working or not. But, what if the true gauge is you? What if you are constantly getting better, you are becoming positive and optimistic, you are becoming sexy, and only a person a fool could leave, then your WAS has enter into a world of true doubt when and if they leave. Starting a new relationship with doubt, can never be a good thing.
What we become out of this experience is stronger mentally, emotionally, and physically. I wonder if BD never happened would I even be working on myself now. Blessing comes in the craziest ways.
I wouldn't wish these feelings on no person, but the person coming out the other side will be amazing, especially if they let go, of trying to control whatever the outcome maybe.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.