You were giving him too much before or just recently? Im assuming this is just recently. If so, then I agree you need to stop it. Pursuing him is the last thing he wants right now - it's oinly reminding him further of his desire to get out. Let him do his own thing. Youre going to be too busy on your own stuff!
Earlier in the week I did give him a hug and he said I was being too needy but the other day before going to work he came and gave me a hug and kiss but haven't had any more attention in that way since.
If it WAS from before, then maybe now is a good time to also add the 5 Love Languages to your reading pile. How does your H receive love? How about you? How do you give love? How does he? These are good reflective questions for you going forward I think.
I have read the 5 love languages many times and I tried to get H to read it too - but he doesn't quite understand the concept. His is physical touch (mainly sex) and mine is receiving gifts and physical touch too (but not so much focus on sex) His idea is that I have to make him happy first in order for him to want to make me happy which I believe is not the way its supposed to be. Plus he told me he doesn't believe in my love language and its a waste. Which makes me feel like crap.
