Is it too late

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I picked up the DB book about a week ago and I have started to read it. I'm not sure if its too late for me though.

It's never too late until you decide it's too late.

So we still live in the same house, we sleep in separate rooms, we watch tv together, take turns doing dishes and cooking.

So the only thing that is different between now and before is that he is on dating/chat sites and youre sleeping apart? That sounds like some major cake-eating for him to me. He gets a wife when he wants one and can go out and act single when he wants? How can you change that dynamic? In my mind, thats by going out and GAL. I dont mean go hang out in bars looking for dudes - join a club, meet some people and make some new friends. Try some hobbies that you never got around to. Go eat in places you always wanted to try. Now is a great time to figure out what you like and to DO IT.

Honestly like a marriage except not too much affection. I was giving him too much and he said I was being too needy.

You were giving him too much before or just recently? Im assuming this is just recently. If so, then I agree you need to stop it. Pursuing him is the last thing he wants right now - it's oinly reminding him further of his desire to get out. Let him do his own thing. Youre going to be too busy on your own stuff!

If it WAS from before, then maybe now is a good time to also add the 5 Love Languages to your reading pile. How does your H receive love? How about you? How do you give love? How does he? These are good reflective questions for you going forward I think.

Im praying if I continue to read DB and follow the steps and work on the part that he wants (better sex) then maybe he will loose interest in dating and realize that what he has here is actually better.

A couple things:
1) just because he says he hasnt met anyone doesnt mean he hasnt. It doesnt really matter either way for your situation. My point is that you should be very careful with your body - you dont want to get any diseases because he was stepping out.

2) Theres no easy way to say this, but if you try to compete sexually with any of the girls he meets on these sites, you will lose. You cant get him to come back to you by being awesome in bed. The allure of the unknown will always be greater than anything you can provide if he's already leaning that way.

3) The best way for him to realize what he is losing is to think he actually has a chance of losing you. You being better isnt going to get him to turn around; him realizing what he stands to lose by you taking away the safety net MIGHT. Thats why GAL is so important - him seeing you going on living an awesome life can only help.

Has anyone had success with a similar issue? Is it too late since he's already talking about divorce and going on chat sites?

Yes, theres many cases on this site. Please keep hope alive, keep posting and keep reading!