I now truly believe that all of that "tough" talk is posturing and complete misunderstanding of what it feels like to face losing a family. On top of that just the thought of some d--khead idiot OM possibly being involved in raising your kids is simply terrifying.
I don't know that I agree with this. We ALL want (or wanted) to save our families or we wouldn't be here, but the standard advice here for a WS is "throw the cheater out of the MBR and if they want space, THEY can leave the house!"
We've all faced this, but we all still give this advice--and I assure you that few if any of us misunderstand what it feels like to face losing a family.
If I had to do it over again (assuming I decided I WANTED to save the M, because the me today sure as hell wouldn't) at ILYBNILWY I should have loaded her ass in the car, dropped her off at her mother's house, and told her to get OM and OM2 out of her life and give me a call if she wanted to fix things.
Instead, I let MNG run the show and things just got worse, worse, and worse. And today, d--khead idiot OM2 lives with her and plays family with our daughter on the weekends. It's progressed to the point where XW goes out of her way to have D talk to him every night when they facetime. OTOH, I'd much rather that d--khead OM have a positive relationship with her than a negative relationship (or no relationship) with her. If she has to have another man in her life, at least it's someone who treats her well and not like crap or ignores her.
