I am so sorry about what you are going through. Great to hear your H is going through IC. In addition to books by MWD listed on this link:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=postlist&Board=33&page=1

I have also found the followng books to be helpful.
Books which help me include: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver

His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage
by Willard F. Jr. Harley

Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires, the Respect He Desperately Needs by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

M 11 Dated for 4 years before then
Me 35 H 39
D 10
BD Feb 2016
A 2015 Dec
I was never in a R with the OM. Had a one night stand & I stopped contact immediately
I confessed the A to H and we went for MC