Any Advice 2

[gw5263]

Sandi,
AA and peer support. Alcoholism runs in my family, (Dad, Grandfather) and unfortunatley my profession has high rates of Alcoholism, suicide, and divorce due to the stress of the job and the things we see. No excuses. Just stats. Even with all the drama and things that have gone on since discovery, i have not had the slightest urge to fall off the wagon.

This marriage, my wife, and kids mean more to me than anything that comes in a can. I ill do whatever is required to at least have a chance at sucees with my marriage. I have not lost hope, despite feeling in limbo. I will not give up until i have no other option. She means so much to me. As i said before, i dont need her in my life, i want her in my life. I will put in the work needed to do this.

I read and re read your initial post when youfirst got here. I wish my wife had your courage and strength. I wish her eyes would open. But i cant count on wishes, much like i cant hopoe the affair just dies on its own. I wish i could. But i have to implement what ive learned here and make it happen or not happen. Wishes wont cut it.

Knowing that emotional neglect on my part contributed to the environment of the affair, should i fully ddetach, or will she percieve this as the old me creeping back in? you may have already answered this, if so im sorry. Until yesterday my mind was all over the place. 25MLC saw this and i realized it when i was shown it. I have settled, and am ready to work hard. We are actually getting along better now than before her EA began. I just want to have the best possible chance at a sucessful outcome, so i will be asking alot of questions. If i need my pumpkin busted a time or two so be it, i can handle it. Its the only way to learn sometimes, someone hitting you with the cold hard truth.