Things w/xw have been pretty good since I last posted. No more monstering/trying to pick fights.
I've been staying busy with work and I've started doing things in the house to make it a home again and not look like a house of MLC aftermath. A couple weekends ago I went into the old MLC dorm room and a lot of emotions washed over me and it was very upsetting. I had only been in there a couple times since xw moved out. I decided to paint the room and rearrange last week which seems to have helped. I also painted my bedroom and I plan on going through the rest of the house while I don't have the kids. I have a couple more house projects I hope to get to sooner than later. Xw and I had plans for the house and I am going to continue on with them without her.
I haven't been speaking w/xw unless it involves the kids and have been really minimal. Even so last week we had lots of contact. This isn't good but she texted and asked me for money toward her child support last week. I'm already ahead of her on it but just gave her all of it to make sure the kids are okay. This is frustrating because she just took the kids on a trip. I am also still paying her car insurance. I have been waiting to bring this up and was thinking about it but today I got cc'd from my attorney on a court order for her to pay the guardian attorney fees so I think I will hold off a little longer. I'm also afraid of my kids riding around in a car without insurance.
When I was at her apartment last week to give her money I went in for a couple minutes to say hi to the kids. When I was close to leaving I said love you guys to the kids in the living room, xw then said love you. IDK what the heck, if that slipped, if she was trying to tell the kids to say it back or what. It was really soft and weak (not the way xw speaks) and actually made me question if I was crazy. I just said love you and bye to the kids again and left. I'm not putting too much thought into it, just noting it because it was strange. She was also over awhile Saturday night while picking the kids up and again Monday night to drop off some of their school stuff. She ate like a teen on the run (lots and fast) after the kids and I were done eating and then left. She did compliment my meal at least. I think she's back to the coffee and cigarette diet.
I've noticed a couple other things she has said but I try not to give them too much thought. I was talking about speaking with one of S's friend's moms about school. I mentioned it to xw but accidentally said the wrong name. Xw said "Who is __?, your girlfriend, go ahead and talk to her about school I don't care." I also told her I bought tickets to the corgi meetup in the neighboring town for this weekend. She made a comment about how she was disappointed she didn't get to go. IDK, nothing to really dwell on but things that make me wonder.
IDK if I'm just disconnected more and able to see it now or if it has been this way awhile but she seems to be bouncing between the MLC stages in short periods of time. I guess I don't need to worry about that and keep the focus on myself and the kids. I've been working with them to keep things picked up, helping out a little, and taking care of our things. I think at xw's you just kick shoes off where they land, book bag on the floor, etc.
Not much else going on, kids are back in school and we seem to be back on track other than this being a rough week with them. I'm looking forward to this weekend with them, it should be fun.
Oh I had a good laugh about MLC watching Phineas and Ferb w/the kids. The evil scientist on the show made himself have a MLC, the writers must have had a little experience or maybe we're reading posts here lol. If you need a good laugh about MLC the song from the episode comes up if you search it.
