Finding my way out of the dark - Part 4

[Holding]

Thanks for the encouragement, y'all! I've actually been hoping she would leave. But now that it's facing me, I do have a moment of doubt and sadness that it's happening. I frankly resent that she almost made it seem like my response would affect her decision, like I'm partly responsible. Just take your cr@p and go!

Well there you go. If you thought yesterday was anything other than a temp check, that should answer that! How sweet of her to try and bait you into talking first, I'm sure what she was hoping was for you to say "I just want to say I still love you and will wait for you forever and ever" so that she could get a little more mileage out of sticking that knife between your ribs. Why just stick it straight in when you can twist it like a corkscrew?

You know, the cruelty of all this is what really gets me the most. I mean, what motivates her to be this evil? I guess it's the selfishness. It's not really a purposeful vengeance against me, it's just that I happen to be in her steamroller's path, and she really needs to get to the store for some ice cream.

Look - my sister was a WAW, and she's been a great counsel to me through this whole process. But even she says she never tormented her XH like this or played these kind of games with him. IT JUST MAKES ME SO ANGRY! SHE'S SO FAKE! FAKE FAKE FAKE FAKE FAKE FAKE!!!!!!

(okay, I feel a little better now)

She needs to go back to the WAS handbook, she totally missed the part where she's supposed to soften you up first with carrots such as "maybe things will work out in the future, this is just temporary"

Ah, AS, that was the night before, with all the talk of her 2 friends who ended up back together with their exes. I guess she could have done a better job of connecting the dots though.

and perhaps some gratuitous sex.

I'm in before Doodler calls dibs on this!

(Wait, "in"? I'm just making it worse.)

Given her attitude I'm not sure I would bother talking to your L, just tell her no, you can't sign the paper. If she wants to buy a house she can wait until the D is finalized. You can't stop the D but that doesn't mean you need to make yourself a doormat either.

I did end up talking to the L anyway, and she advised me not to sign, of course. I wasn't really considering it, as I had a bad feeling about the whole thing. The second STBXW mentioned it, I knew it was fishy. I was also concerned about her using certain funds as a downpayment, but my L said not to worry, it'll all come out in the end, and the judge will not look kindly on any fraud. My L did ask if my STBXW smokes pot, because she's obviously living in Lala Land.