T.....i agree, there is so much information out there sometime i feel as though my brain is on overload. I think the quicker people can adopt these rules the better off they will be personally and probably the better chance they have to save their relationship. I personally don't think mine is, I think my W was 100% done when she walked out the door. To quote her...."I know this won't work, I just feel it 100% in my bones".
As I have been reading and reflecting I have been keeping track of things I will implement either with my W or the next relationship I have. I thought I would share in hopes that maybe it will resignate or inspire someone else:
1. Do not apologize for how I feel 2. Be happy outside of my relationships, I am 100% accountable for my happiness. 3. Become self-reliant 4. Don’t chase sex. 5. Her feelings don’t define me or effect my moods 6. Go to bed content and wake up happy 7. Talk more clearly and boldy, don’t fear reaction or judgement 8. Trust myself, be decisive and don’t seek approval 9. Don’t be an [censored]. 10. My happiness is not based on feminine approval, sex or unconditional commitment. 11. Owning our own happiness and facing our fears is scary. Fear of change and the unknown freezes us in place. 12. Don’t ask too many questions, where are you going, what are you doing, who are you texting, etc. 13. Don’t ask are you okay? Whats’ wrong? Are you mad? How are you doing? 14. Be calm, deliberate and pleased. Cool headed, secure, reagal, aware, curious, playful, loving, protective, brave, sensitive and caring. 15. Be goofy, fun, flirty, sexy, don’t analyze her moods and don’t give $hit what she thinks 16. I AM THE PRIZE!!!!! 17. I am worthy of love, inspiration and passion 18. Women can feel your intentions 19. Don’t ever think she is not a sexual woman 20. She has no choice but to lead if you’re not trying 21. She expects you to understand how to help her feel safe emotionally 22. She picked you for a reason 23. No tit for tat…. 24. I just want to relax 25. I just want to feel like I can count on him 26. Connect…..shut off the computer, the phone, your work brain. Be awake and aware 27. Invite……into a funny moment, a goofy look, random kitchen dance, a dirty joke, 5 sec kiss, loving hug, to a vacation 28. Create…..new conversations, dreams, inspire her to dream about something bigger 29. Don’t fake affection 30. Don’t make her feel stupid 31. Don’t interrogate
