I have seen the "need to explain" in many guys who have the NGS. Work in it, b/c you do not have to explain yourself, okay? Some M men get into that habit when they have a demanding W who tends to get angry easily. They become a puppet to her mood swings and basically live around trying to keep her in a not so bad mood. That is no way for a anyone to live. You have a chance to change that dynamic, starting now.
+1000
Lived it. All I wanted was for her to be happy, and I'd have done anything to make that happen. When she was angry (which was, in hindsight, most of the time!) my focus was almost always around "how to make her not angry."
The net result of this is that I lived with an entitled child. And now I'm divorced from an entitled child, who feels even MORE entitled now than she did before, and whom I will spend the next 12+ years tied to through our little girl. As sandi says, that's no way to live.
Since sandi posted in the wrong thread, I felt the need to respond in the right one.
