Sandi - I get how explaining myself fully could influence her need to pursue me more...it kind of put a pause on her, b/c I just basically told her everything, and how I currently feel. That was a mistake on my part. I def was in that habit in my M (explaining myself to keep the peace).
Don't beat yourself up about it. I did a huge temp check on my W almost three weeks ago because I needed to have clarity. I let her know I felt and told her everything too because I needed an answer. I know her answer is rooted in how she is feeling NOW, but I needed that to be able to move on and DB. Will she change her mind, who knows? - but I am not waiting around for it any more basically and it allowed me to not interpret anything she's doing as mixed signals.
So, keep up with the NC. I am also doing that except that I do correspond about kids. She doesn't know anything about what I am doing and all of that, which helps me in my detachment process but also creates a level of mystery for her.
