Lost on how to save my marriage! 3

[joejoe1]

25,

I truly love my wife. I absolutely like my wife.

I have been deployed 3 times. Once to Iraq, once to Afghanistan, and once to Kuwait. I really didn't take into account her contributions while being a single parent while I was deployed.

I have talked to a therapist and military Chaplian.

The military put us thru a lot of training, but they have no training for us on how to be a husband and father. I think it's a subject that needs to be taught for husband and wives that serve in the Military.

I called my father in law the pass weekend and apologized for my behavior that day, I told him I was a selfish man with selfish intentions that day. My wife told me that her father was disappointed at me that day and he lost respect for me as well. He accepted my apology. "Woo what tangle webs we weave."

We might be going out together today. I will keep in mine to compliment her in public. Thats a great idea.

I have to say, that I really hate this situation, but the honest truth is it has been a blessing. Inhave learned so much about myself, my wife and my boys. I have gain tools that I never would have without this wake up call. I have gotten back in church and has made Jesus and GOD a daily part of my life. I'm also more optimistic. I do have my down moments and days, but with this forum and Vets like you 25 I know I'm going to be alright. Oh, I'm smiling more and enjoying being around people.

I made huge mistakes in my marriage and I havr fully accepted that my wife don't have to take me back and it's 100 percent her choice. But I need her know I valued her and being a jerk and absent while there was the fool in me and ignorance. I also want her to see that I'm willing to fight and not just give up.