24 Mths in..I gotta whole lot of living to do now

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This isn't about right and wrong. That implies judgement and superiorityboth of which could probably be justified but remain negative traits. That isn't who I see Irish as being.

Secondly there are no rules in this process. There are things that help and guidelines. Plus each situation is different and hence what is "right" in a given instance for one dber may not be good for another

So to give my view of the interaction. It was an unprovoked attack surely due to a build up of resentment or even anger. I think you need to examinet that build up. It won't serve you well. Are you taking steps to help you stay balanced? You are doing so well that maybe that is being neglected due to feeling better.

Being an unprovoked attack may just feel like an attack to W. But you only stated your view of the truth. You are entitled to have that view and to express it. Like Cali, I believe that an occasional truth dart is beneficial.TiTiming and delivery however are important.

I also believe that once separation occurs the lbs needs to arrive at a point where he/she doesn't consider how their actions affect WAS.It is good that you are there, but be careful how you proceed.

Irish, in your situation you don't need to interact at all with exW.So don't.Let her be. Send the obligatory emails but don't initiate any other contact. Let her stew in your words (if she even heard the message!!!).

Hope you, gf and the girls have a great time away.

Best wishes