Last week, i asked ex-h to please let me know if son ask him for money, now and in the future. ( text ) His answer: he inly ask if you say NO. He knows that money is drawn from my pay and deposit in YOUR account. Plus, i know he will take whatever i offer him.
Me: i have no way of knowing if he demands it from the both of us. I do not want him to take advantage of neiter of us and pocket in extra. I gave him alot this month.
Ex-h: i' m not surprised. I told him buying his new car plus insurance plus rent plus gas... he would not be in this situation if he had took the residence like i told him to. Anyway.
Me: " anyway " I hardly ask you for anything. Could i get your co-operation on this one??
No answer
Today, ex-h calls me: Ex-h: 2 things... first Isaiah.. he never asked me for money. Why do you want to know if he does?
Me: i gave him over 700.00 last month. I have no way of knowing if he also ask you for some.. the " enableing " i was talking about this summer, this is it.. you suspected them doing drugs.. well their finance would be a good way to know if they do. This is why i asked you to let me know.
Ex- h : do you think they do?
Me: knowing from you that he never asked for money, then NO. they cannot afford it. I know how much i give them and what it is for. I knew they were gonna be short by quite a bit. So far, for october, they should be on track. They seem to be so far.
Ex- h: don' t worry, i will tell you if he vomes to me.
Me: thank you!!!
Ex-h... 2... remember the negotiations between NAPS and the government? You told me ladt Christmas you were going to complete tge kids account. Have you done so?
Me: yes
Ex-h :Well, there is another part of settlement coming in. In the next couple of days, i will bring you a certified cheque. I want you to add another 5000 per kids in the bank and keep the rest of it for yourself.
Me: ( shaky, rocky voice on the verge to cry) .. i don' t want it, i don' t need it, it is not mine... nelson, i never was with you for your money, that is not what i needed from you, you are missing the point.. ( now crying )
Ex-h: Diane, you work really hard and yes, it is yours. You deserve it. I hear what you are saying. I know.... also, i will bring the kids shopping and i will spoil them just so you know.. i want you to do the same for yourself... i will see you within a couple of days...
Me: ok.. ( still crying )
We have turned into a Love-hate rinse and repeat kind of relationship...
Today: ex-h was loving me And for some reason, it makes me sad..
