well, except for calling your wife insane, I think you need to take in what Sandi said, and really take it in. No rebuttal needed, okay?
In some ways, your w's response is quite rational. She does not need his physical presence to feel valued or listened to, and tbh, some of your behavior sounds abusive.
I know from a law enforcement perspective that sounds too dramatic, but to her and emotionally speaking, I am not sure its far off. If you were an "a$$hole/jerk" to her,
then does it really shock you that a guy who makes her feel valued and cherished, is fantasized about?
So let's figure out who you were when she fell in love with you, okay? Let's get you back to being him,
and if it's vague to you, then what do you think a man of strength and honor is like?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016