During our talk the other night, she asked me to sleep on the couch on Fridays so she could sleep in bed and I would not wake her. I nicely pointed out that she can sleep in bed anytime she wants. Her response was "why would I want to be with someone who wont sleep on the couch so I can get more sleep since I am only getting 4 hours of sleep per night."
You were right to stick to your guns on that. She was trying to emotionally blackmail you, good job in not falling for it! Just keep emphasizing that she's welcome to sleep in the bed with you or sleep on the couch, her choice.
Originally Posted By: Tate
I am having a difficult time deciding when to be scarce around my W and when to validate.
You want to be scarce whenever possible. You only validate when she shares her feelings. A lot of people don't get that, they think they're supposed to validate EVERYTHING a WAS says but that's not the case. If she says she's angry or frustrated or sad then that's an expression of feelings and that is what you validate. Hope that makes sense.
