Still an Awkward Situation

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Kids are 10, 9, 7. Thats just an example...I have seen people advise both types of response.

It seems detaching dictates the "whatever" style response, but the response for mending the relationship once both parties are on board is the validation type response.

Is there a recommended time for detaching vs mending type interactions? Its been a year since I read tge Divorce Busting book...