and not cold or punitive. See, I have a quibble with the approach of "not letting them cake eat" b/c all WAS cake eat at first.
They want out of the m and we want it to remain (I'm quoting my DB coach, not just blurting this out).
But from what you are saying here, it's as if she wants to file but just not yet.
And you do need to do 180's, like helping around the house, and with the d.
As for things she is upset about from 5 years ago, if it's not happening now,
I would tell her
"W, I'm sorry that hurt you. If I had it all to do over again, there are many things I'd do differently" and move on to the present.
What matters now is what is happening now.
As for your wife's bone pain, I'm sorry but I don't see how that is related to infertility treatments, NOW.
In other words, has she gotten a decent medical exam?
And can you move to the USA for you and your D, (regardless of what your w plans)?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
