Now go away or I will taunt you a second time

[roist]

Acting on the impulse of fear is rarely productive, especially in this process. I understand the wanting to benefit the most you can whilst he is open to that. But that is selling yourself short.

Build connection whenever he seeks you out. Look for those opportunities and times where he is fully there and available to connect. Forcing it at all other times is counter productive. Until he is all-in he is most likely to withdraw if confronted with more than he can handle.

Keep your boundaries in place but just because he isn't where you need him to be doesn't mean nothing has changed. It is a slow process with much hidden beneath the surface.

Best wishes