Mark - a good list of self reflection. Now, how can you turn that into goals for you going forward?
Also, with regards to 4, one thing I've learned is this key difference between men and women. Men use sex to feel closer to their partner. Women need to feel close to want to have sex. so I would always push my XW to have sex to gain that emotional connection but she wasn't interested in sex because we didn't have that emotional connection.
In your words above, you say that holding hands/cuddling is what builds the connection. I believe that it's the speaking of your partners LL which is what builds it. So if your partner's primary LL is physical touch, then sure, those are great ways. But if your partner's primary LL is something else, then you may do better focusing there.
