Let say, she will file a divorce sooner or later anyway.
Can I spend this time kiss, embrace, take care, have fun with her, make my daughter happy and forget about her A, while maintain the "GAL", "Detachment", and "RULES" ???
There's something we call "cake-eating" around here, it's where a WAS wants to "have their cake and eat it too". Basically it means they want to keep living a family life with their LBS, but then they want to go off and have their exciting fling with OP as well. Typically when a WAS allows this to happen their situation goes into a long and painful (for them) limbo. So if you do that, your situation is unlikely to change or get better, you'll just get stuck in a rut where you are bending over backwards to make W happy while she remains perfectly content to keep engaging in an A.
So in DB'ing terms, we usually suggest people in your sitch do NOT kiss, embrace and do fun things with their affair partner. It's much better for you to cut her off as much as possible and get out and get a life independent of her. Make it clear to her through your actions that you're not going to sit idly by being plan B for her. Show her what she is missing- a fun, happy, busy you.
