Weird timing; just received a text from W; "hey, do you want to come over tomrw and talk?"
I actually have plans tomrw; so I am going to respond by saying I am not available tomrw. But how should I proceed after that? Do I need to say anything more?
Just tell her you have plans and suggest a time that does work for you, maybe a few days from now. Something that happens a lot though is a WAW will say she wants to talk, you set a date/ time and she never shows and never mentions it again.
Originally Posted By: Tread
OM just has to sit back and listen to W talk about her complaints about me. And simply validate over the phone and in text, while doing nothing. Coming off as Mr. So Amazing, yeah that is what she calls him. All this while having the convience of not losing his own family.
But see, that is the power of validation. Our W's were not getting the love, attention and validation they craved in the M. So a stranger comes along and knows exactly how to fulfill those needs, and next thing you know we're getting BD'd. There's a lesson to be learned there.
And of course they are going to open up to that person sexually as well. Communication is a very powerful thing, it opens up all kinds of possibilities. We quit communicating with our W's, we give them the same old stale husband and stale sex and stale conversations week after week. At some point to a WAS that is no longer sustainable. So our takeaway from this should be that whether we recon or move on to a new relationship, we need to WORK to overcome our faults. How can we keep that R alive and interesting, and keep communication strong? This is part of the work we must do or we are doomed to get BD'd again some day.
