Another good question. One i have spent three years pondering. On the surface it would appear simple: reconnect and rebuild.
I could talk for hours on theories, strategies and potential options. Ranging from waiting it out to dropping an ultimatum and much more in-between.
I believe my W is not fully lost to me. Maybe that remaining part will vanish too and my story will follow the same path as many here. Or maybe a new better R can be built. Maybe I am deluding myself. But as long as I continue to work towards the me I want to be and my W doesn't pull further away I can support the situation. Not indefinitely though. As littl as I like this situation I don't see separation being better for any of us especially our sons.
Thanks for thinking about me and my situation.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
