Okay, I think you are beginning to open up and telling us more about feelings & reactions in the relationship. What can you do to stop the emotional punches between you and H? You can take a big 180 degree here.

Thanks for being honest and revealing more. Has there been other painful areas in the MR?

When he flirts with other women, what type of reaction does he see in you?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!