MLC or WAS... either way, I'm here

[LAJar]

Peace,
I'm glad to see it gets easier. I can't imagine living years on end like this, with the sadness, anger, confusion, disgust and I could go on... It's amazing to see the chaos MLCers leave behind. I would suspect that a good portion of LBS were going along just fine in life, at least financially speaking. Then in the blink of an eye, falling into the complete unknown. Although, for you getting that job after you last contract must have felt great after what you'd already been through.

At least your H did you a favor and signed the house over to you. If only my H was so "kind", life would be so much easier. As if any of this is easy! I know I can't pull H away from OW, but H messing with my financial future is just crazy to me. We held off for so long before finally deciding to purchase a home and to have it all come crashing down only 3 months later, I still find it hard to believe.

You may be able to relate, but I think many believe because we didn't have biological children together, it should be easier to move on. Emotionally it is all the same. We just don't have the messiness of child support or custody. I would have thought helping to raise son would have tied H to him, but I know that's not the case with MLCers and their bio children.

At this point, I'm not moving on from my marriage either, I'm just trying to continue on with life. I don't have the ability to lay in bed all day being depressed. I have to get up, look presentable and function at work. Of course, the weekends are a whole other story. Emotionally, this is by far the hardest thing I've ever had to go through in life. I can see being the same as you, in that years later I would still get sad by the turn in our R. I can't stop thinking how unbelievable it all is. And yes, with your H, OW would probably have sped up the process. Although, thankfully it spared you more grief. Seeing H move on so easily with OW is painful beyond belief.

It helps to come here and read what other newbies are dealing with and getting advice, insight and compassion from the vets. I'll say it over and over again, no one can really relate unless they've been through it.