I walked a book that I borrowed back to a neighbor's house yesterday afternoon. Chatted on the porch, realized I had plenty of food for dinner, and invited her to join the kids and me. She has been a frequent dinner guest at our house when W was living here. (It wasn't a weird thing to do; it was very normal, with no ulterior motive.)
She said no, thank you, and after a moment's hesitation, confessed she felt like it would upset W if she came to dinner with me and the kids. At the time, I just accepted that.
After returning home, I thought about what she said a little bit, and realized two things. 1) She is worried it would upset W if she came to dinner with me, but doesn't really care that I might have become upset when she had drinks with W last week? and 2) Does that mean W would be upset if I was entertaining friends?
Item 1) kind of pisses me off. And item 2), as much as I'm trying to disconnect, kind of makes me think "good, maybe she'll think a bit and realize what she's missing," which also pisses me off because I'm not disconnecting as well as I'd like.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
