Help needed from Far-east.

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Hi 25.

I'm sorry, I don't know what this^^^ means.

I read her text this morning to see what is her plan this week because it is OM's last week before he go back to USA.

What is with the "accidentally" making the meeting hard?

If I interfered my wife directly it'd be an argument. If I didn't do anything, it'd be like I allowed her. So, I guess this is why I feel like I have to do something to make this incoming meeting not easy for her by using other people or other situations.

Why not set a boundary like telling her you tell her you are going to leave her Or file for divorce. IF she goes to meet him, OR ignore it and be the better choice?

I don't want to end up D so I might have to forget about setting boundary because she will let me leave. I can answer this myself. I am better than her OM no matter in what standard. BUT...How can I be a better choice to my W's eyes because she didn't even put me in the choice??? She might see me as a choice again after she ended her affair first. Otherwise, she don't even bother consider.

So, the answer is ignore her affair. Isn't it?

If the only thing I can do to my wife that might safe my marriage is ignoring her affair, that what I'm gonna do.

I deeply appreciate you concern "25". Please don't give up on helping me. I know that sooner or later I will blow it and come back here to hear you say "I told you not to do!!!".

But, I will do my best.
Thanks