Help needed from Far-east.

[25yearsmlc]

I stopped reading her texts a while. However, OM will leave at the end of this week. I wanna know their plan so just a peep won't hurt. I think.


I'm sorry, I don't know what this^^^ means.

She can't drive to stay over night with him no more because everyone starts to question her as she never go anywhere without me before. OM told her that he will come to see my wife this Thursday before he fly on Friday. I want to accidentally make this meeting hard for her.

If you want to set a boundary (and ONLY do this if you are going to enforce the boundary -) then do it.

What is with the "accidentally" making the meeting hard? Why not set a boundary like telling her you tell her you are going to leave her Or file for divorce

IF she goes to meet him,

OR ignore it and be the better choice?



I am trying to make plan with people around that date so she has to lie more before she can go.

I don't know what you mean. You want to set her up to lie?

Is this pursuing and not detaching? or, Should I just act like I don't know their plan?

well it is Not detaching. And you are taking action to obstruct their affair.

But I know that betrayal is very hard. And it's a very hard line to draw.

I just worry you are driving yourself nuts with trying to control the results here. Sometimes we have to let go to save ourselves and take a chance that our spouse will get it,

but if they don't, at least we won't be spinning anymore.

And to be fair, there are some important things for you to work on as a h. The more you work on those, the better you will be and feel, no matter what else She does.

Do you get that?