Those are great GALs. You have a really good plan. Don't fall for her trap. Until she says she want to work on the marriage and show remorse keep DBing.
Keep up the good work.
not to quibble, but DBIng is a way of life, not so much a tactic to get the spouse back.
It means not attaching our worth to another person even if the person is our spouse.
It means not letting their mood affect ours (other than sympathy/empathy when they need it)
not letting THEIR view determine our choices and whatever choice we make, we own. No blame shifting.
DBing is about realizing our happiness is and has always been OUR responsibility and no one else. We make our needs known, we say what we want, and we are ready to negotiate with our spouse b/c we know life does not "Give" us everything we want.
Div Busting and living well
- is about always, always having a life. As for GAL -- People with hobbies and friends and interests, bring more to the table as a spouse, as a partner, as a friend and as a parent.
They are not people who present to us with their bucket of needs. Their bucket is already full, so no, they do not "need" us. They want us b/c we add to their life and they add to ours.
Hope this helps.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
