Hi Stander - I do expect to make mistakes in the 180s, and W will likely respond with a lack of trust in the changes ("go ice princess"). And, we haven't resolved everything, so once one of us steps on a third rail in our R, we'll see if we can manage it.
Our levels of individual anxiety are turned way down right now, and I didn't realize that I had control of that dial.
I am GALing to some degree...going out with friends here and there, business trip this week, etc.
One thing I realized was that W was doing more GAL than I was. Someone told me that women tend to do this a little better than men do. The key thing for me was realizing that I can make plans, and she could participate or not, but I wouldn't necessarily change my plans as a result. She's plenty happy with me doing my own thing, but then again, I don't do it enough.
I also bought a few new nice shirts to wear out. I didn't plan on wearing one while out with her, but it worked out that way and I'm ok with it. She noticed.
