Finding my way out of the dark - Part 4

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Thanks for the replies Acc, AS, Joseph, and Doodler! (yes, even Doodler)

I do wonder why you are so cloak and dagger with W when it comes to answering her questions. It must feel to her like you're trying to provoke her with your evasiveness.

MWD does often say that we should be mysterious. Even JoeJoe said I should let my STBXW think I may be up to something. But really, I'm doing this to loosen my STBXW's control over me. For our whole M, she's almost always called the shots, and I let her, sadly. So now I'm showing her that she doesn't get to know my business. This is a boundary for me.

I might suggest backing off on responses that might be interpreted as passive aggressive, and just do your thing. There's no need to keep secrets.

Which of my responses struck you as P/A? I'd honestly like to know. It's something I'm trying to work on, and I need to be more aware.

On the aspect of secrets, my STBXW is NOSY. She will pick at the tiniest detail till she gets what she wants. I'm going to do what I want, and she doesn't need to know. She doesn't get to have a microscope on my life any more.

AS, my M is already starting to look like a hazy memory from long ago. I think back and ask how I let myself live that way.

Joseph, I sometimes look at my wife and think she's attractive, but it's only a superficial observation. Beauty is only skin deep.

Doodler, get help