Thanks again Blu.....I try to think deep about things and to not react when it comes to my sitch. Hence why there are so many great topics because it helps me work things out in my head!
I never did discover if there was OM and I stopped snooping when she moved out. I go back and forth between W and WW but just based on her actions probably more W I would guess but who knows. I also don't think it really matters. When she left though I got the same standard responses, not attracted to you, not in love with you any more, you were a safe choice, etc.
I do think my W is in girls gone wild mode at minimum, enjoying her freedom , partying with her friends, meeting guys etc. I don't think she left to sit at home twiddling her thumbs so in that way I would say she is Wayward, just not as disrespectful as some of the others I have read about.
Before kids we just did your normal dating type of things going out to dinner, bars, maybe an overnight trip here and there, some concerts...more social type of activities.
In the end though you got your mojo back, filed and it woke him up. Combined with him viewing you as an attractive option. Correct? The filing for D, combined with the other factors, including time/distance and you being an attractive option pushed him over the edge.
