Sorry that your still dealing with this mess. But it's time to divorce your W and move on. Also expect your sister to be pissed off at you for a long time for oholding this secret for so long. So the kids may not see thsir cousins for awhile. But that is the consequences of W and BOL actions.
But your W pretty much is using you for comfort and to maintain her lifestyle, while screwing BOL. Time is up for talk, it's time to remove her from the home and let the consequences commence. As far as having her cutting off communication with BOL. You do so once she has seriously committed got he MR. At this point a second chance isn't option. The year was her time frame.
Don't allow your W again talk into into keeping her secret out of fear. Because she just plans on continuing the A, while married to you. You were worried about the divorce. But failed to be worries about the disrespectful behavior from your W.
This feels like strange advice on a pro-marriage website.
In my opinion, the year is immaterial, because nothing changed between a year ago and today. Tate didnt seem to do anything differently, so expecting W to behave differently doesnt make sense.
Id reread this thread and start over with a beginner's mind. What are your goals? How are you going to get there? Do the plans you have at the moment support you achieving those goals?
