The kids and I were watching the races when she sent a message to me addtessed to my BIL talking about her morning, then expressing how much she wanted to be with him on such a nice day someday.
So a year later your sitch is EXACTLY the same. Read Sandi's post up above from 08-12-16, it applies just as much now as ever. Her comment "I mean is your MR doesn't stand a chance as long as your WW & BIL continue their A" certainly rings true. I understand you felt that the coaches were giving you some direction to leave things alone, but surely they didn't intend for you to just let is slide for an entire year with no action.
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She crossed the line. I am planning on telling my sister and exposing the whole thing now. The fallout will be aweful...family get togethers will likely end, no more vacations for the kids and their cousins at the lake, devastation for my sister.
It sounds like your sister already suspects something, but I do think you should tell her. You can no doubt find ways to continue getting the cousins together and such. I don't know why you would even want to have "family get-togethers" with an adulterous W and BIL though.
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The question is, do I give her one more chance...she would have to stop all communication with my BIL and give me access to check her facebook account and phone records to make sure there is no contact. I know, this sounds controlling, but its the only way I could justify not telling my sister.
No, you need to tell your sister regardless. If your W wants to recon AFTER she has owned all the damage she has caused then that's one thing, but you can't negotiate a relationship with her out of keeping it a secret.
